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How To Have A Happy Marriage Part Four
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Written by Verna E. MacKay   



"For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.”  Matthew 19:5, 6.

In the above bible text Jesus is the one who is speaking. 

Step 1.  When you get married, do not stick around your parent’s home.  This will lead to an unhappy marriage.  You now have a home of your own, with each other.  Leave relatives behind, they will destroy your marriage and you will be left without a mate.  This does not mean that you should discard your family, family is important especially if you have children.

Step 2.  When you get into an argument with each other, do not tell it to your parents.  Long after you and your spouse have made up, your parents may never forgive your spouse.  To have a happy marriage, work things out together between yourselves.

Step 3.  Do not embarrass each other in public, and do not take sides with anyone against your spouse, even if you know that he or she is wrong.  Stick up for each other.  When you are alone in private, you may point out to your spouse that he or she was in the wrong.  Your spouse should be your best friend. This will help you to have a happy and healthy marriage.

Step 4.  If you are a stay at home mom those kids can wear you out.  Do not meet your husband at the door telling him about what the children did.  Give him a chance to unwind.  He may have had a hard day at the office and do not feel like dealing with any issues the moment he steps through the door.  This will lead to an unhealthy marriage.  The story is told of a husband and wife who as soon as he stepped through the door, would unload on the husband about the hard day she had with the children.  It was leading to problems within the marriage.  He told her that if he had a bad day at the office he would turn his hat backwards.  The wife said she would turn her apron backwards.  One day they both had a bad day, the husband turned his hat backwards, the wife turned her apron backwards, and as they stared at each other they burst out laughing.  Laughter is good medicine for a happy marriage.

Step 5.  If you are a stay at home wife, keep yourself looking good for your husband.  When he gets home, do not meet him at the door looking sloppy with rollers in your hair.  Husbands keep yourself looking good for your wife.  This will help you to have a happy marriage.

Step 6.  Husband; do not compare your wife with your mother.  If you do you will destroy your marriage.  Do not tell her this is the way my mother folded my clothes, or this is the way she cooked a certain dish, or that you always had a certain dish on a certain day.  You are not living at your mother’s house, you are living with your wife and she will do things the way she wants to.  This will help you to have a good healthy marriage. 

Step 7. Love each other as Christ loves the church and gave himself for her.  The church represents people, so husbands are to love their wives.  The wife’s body belongs to the husband, and the husband’s body belongs to the wife.  You are now one body living in one household.  Enjoy each other, and be supportive of each other.  This will help you to have a happy marriage.